Thursday, April 18, 2013

Frustrated: Black American Men in Brazil... Response by SistaSistaSister.




Human nature is human nature, no matter where on earth we live. Love will always be love, honor will always be honor, and respect will always be respect.  Regardless of where we live in the world, happiness will always start and end within.  A week ago someone tagged me in a post, and I had the opportunity to view this so called letter from a White woman, with a response from a so called Black man…  I read it through, and refused to post it to my timeline or even comment on it.  Again it was one of those women bashing post, particularly the Black woman.  In the same week or perhaps the same day, the video “Frustrated: Black American Men in Brazil” was posted to a group thread, and I decided to watch. The first evening, I sort of haphazardly listened while eventually falling asleep.  The next day I attempted to watch again, but did not complete it.  Perhaps, it was the bashing of African American Women, or the mix message of the documentary. Either way, I did not see it through to the end.  Last night, I watched it through and through.

Here’s my opinion:  Black Women, White Women, Brazilian, Asian, Jamaican, South American, Central American, Canadian, or African (from the continent of Africa); Women simply desire to love and be loved, by a loving, supportive, and protective man. If we use LOVE as our template we would see we are all the same.  Unfortunately, we live in a society of divide and conquer.  Man against woman, Woman against man, Blacks against Whites, Whites against Blacks, and all the shades of color in-between.   As for the subject of Black men and women in America, we have long since been brainwashed to believe White women or more compliant, feminine and willing to cater to their man; while in contrast Black women are loud, obnoxious and overbearing eager to control her man.  In both scenarios’ I am sure if you looked, you would find just that.  Yet and still I guarantee if you continue to look, you would find just the opposite.
   
All this nit-picking leaves both men and women unfulfilled and unhappy, scurrying to people and places that may or may not be beneficial to their search for love.  The bottom line: Finding a woman or man who best suits your personality and temperament takes time, and we may kiss a few frogs & froggets along the way.   However, we must not allow those negative experiences to embitter us; but rather allow the experience to prune us.   Pruning helps us to prepare for the direction we desire to grow toward, by removing unwanted pessimistic intentions, which may have possibly drawn the last unsuccessful relationship into our existence. 

Not to be redundant, however consequently, when we begin to compare one woman to another or one man to another, we are setting ourselves up for disappointment.  All comparisons of this nature are meant to divide and conquer, to humiliate and debase; these nonsensical evaluations of ethnicities, are nothing more than mental anarchy. And, it is this same confusing mentality that has been used throughout history, pitting the light skinned Blacks against the dark skinned Blacks; a more exaggerated form of this tactic was used in Rwanda (central Africa) pitting the Hutus against the Tutsis; in both scenarios, the ideal of ethnic superiority created enemies; friend against friend, neighbor against neighbor, and family member against family member.  When will we ever comprehend, we all emanate from the same source energy/creator. Have we not learned ridicule only begets ridicule?  But love begets love! 

Black Man, Black Woman, if it is your desire to love and be loved; first one must start with oneself.  Let us stop with the intimidation tactics. I am reminded of a thought I had, after spending a day working in a school designed specifically for children with special needs.  I watched how each child had one on one instruction; with top of the line computer software and gadgets to enhance their learning experience.  My thoughts that day were, “Wow, if these children can excel with one on one treatment, aided by advance learning tools, how much more would this approach aid the children in regular, old, everyday, public School.” 

I make mention of this to say, If men and women put as much energy in loving one another as they do attempting to discredit and debase one another, then surely we could build meaningful and loving relationships…

What U think?
Can we all just get along?

1 comment:

  1. I agree totally Sister Sister sister , we are no longer in the days of jim Crow however our mina set has not changed much much change our thoughts and mind set .Yolanda

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Sometimes we stumble;
Sometimes faith is betrayed;
Sometimes the mistakes we make
are the stones it takes, to build a pathway to the person we will be. Remember we are ever becoming.
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Truth is the prerequisite of revealed wisdom,
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Seek truth, wisdom and love will follow.
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To be conventional, for some is deifying creativity.
To be absolutely unique, is a freedom we all seek, at various levels. (February 27, 2010)

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There are times we should use our prudent minds, to take another look, there could be more than what meets the eye.
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