Tuesday, January 19, 2016

Comfortable Within


Are you more concerned with others perceptions of you? Or… Are your perceptions of yourself defined by you and you alone? Being comfortable within for many is an ever perplexing journey and for others, the journey is seamless and natural.
To be comfortable within, fortifies one’s emotions and behavior, and when met with the stresses of a challenging life, those who are comfortable within are able to remain level headed, confident in their truth and able to summons their ability to overcome.  When one is comfortable within, even while facing unwarranted circumstances, these individuals are capable of remaining mentally and emotionally present and accountable for their choices and actions.
When we are uncomfortable within, we can be regularly afflicted with self-doubt, self-loathing and indecision. When uncomfortable within everything in life can be a challenge due to our indecisiveness; we may melt down oppose to calming down and we tend to seek affirming affirmations from others, outside ourselves.  When we are uncomfortable within we can develop a habit of not defining our boundaries, and when we do not define our boundaries, we leave ourselves open to becoming constant victims of circumstance.
One mechanism I found for knowing and understand one’s self is journaling.  Whether we are Comfortable Within or Uncomfortable Within, being able to pen one’s thoughts, experiences, life-dreams and day-dreams, is an inexpensive and therapeutic means to getting to know oneself.  Below are a few questions to help you get started.
Journal Entry: Learning to become Comfortable Within
Find a place where you can be completely alone, and not influenced by outside forces that can result in feelings of guilt, insecurity, or embarrassment. And… Answer the Questions below, to help you begin to better focus on You.  
  • What are your best qualities?
  • What nonphysical thing would you like to change or improve about yourself?
  • What is your greatest accomplishment at present date? And what makes this your greatest accomplishment?
  • What makes you laugh at yourself? Explain in detail.
  • What was your life’s most frightening experience? How did you overcome it? Or… How are you dealing with it?
  • What was the most empowering moment of your life? How did it make you feel?
  • If by some magical ability you became a super hero overnight, what are your superpowers and how would you use them to benefit the world?
  • What one thing can you do right now to bring you inner peace and happiness?
  • What inspires you to do and be your best?  Do you always present your best efforts? (Answer for the following: Job, Home, School, Family, Friends, Self). How do you know the effort you have given is your best?        


Join me SistaSistaSister, Crystal J and Stephanie Wallace of LAID: (Love And Intimacy for the Disabled) Sunday (January 24 2016) as we explore what it means to be Comfortable Within.        

Monday, January 11, 2016

There Is Therefore Now No Condemnation: RadioBlog Notes


Condemnation is defined as the active practice to judge; to declare (or make) wrong," “to damn” or "to condemn," whether in civil, ethical or religious associations.

I know for myself, when we transition from one thought process to another or we cease to follow religious practices or systems of belief, due to our growth development or reassessments of convictions, we also meet with religious condemnation from those whom we know and love.  But let me affirm, “There Is Therefore No Condemnation. When we are free from internal condemnation.

It is my thought, what breeds this religious condemnation is ignorance, intolerance and a lack of compassion.

Solution for religious condemnation:
1.    We must know our truth lies within us, so we must stay in tune to our internal dialogue.
2.    When we transition from one thought process to another we must give ourselves time to grow into the assurance of our knowing.  As we grow the things others say will no-longer bother us.
3.    Free yourself from condemnation for we know, there is therefore now no condemnation, except we exact it upon ourselves.

Remember, upon divorcing, the only religion we have ever known, we will come face to face with internal and external conflict. In the beginning we may refrain from expressing our new understanding with those we know and love, for fear of not being understood.  In our minds, a mental battle may ensue. Our thoughts may conflict as we attempt to balance religious indoctrination with clarity formed by knowledge logic and experience. For a time, we will be of two minds, condemning ourselves for questioning a system of belief widely accepted by those we know and love and the growing freedom of our own truth.  And when the day comes and we do share our new and present truth, we must know beyond the shadow of doubt this is our truth and we stand in it in love and confidence...

Thank U for listening,

Saturday, January 9, 2016

THERE IS THEREFORE NOW NO CONDEMNATION:




Once I reclaimed me and excused myself from the bondages of religion, I then understood, “There is therefore now no condemnation to them who walk after the Spirit.”  What is the spirit? The Spirit, is many things to many people, but for me The Spirit is the seat of my soul; the mechanism for my knowing, the leverage of my intuition, the indicator on my guidance system, and the life force which animates my body.  The Spirit is Me, my actual self. 

That’s a mouthful, so let me explain. I was raised in a Christian family with Christian principles and beliefs.  In my family and amongst friends of the family and the community I grew up in, there were various forms of Christianity and Christian beliefs.  For example, one aunt was Apostolic Pentecostal, another Church of God in Christ, my Grandpa was Church of God and my Grandmother Missionary Baptist. Family friends and neighbors were Catholic, Jehovah’s Witnesses, and Muslim.  Before my 17th birthday, I had attended them all and each religious sect claimed to be the truth, and the way of life if I were to enter into heaven or paradise.

From age 12 to 24 I read the King James Version of the Bible through and through, 12 times from cover to cover, not including three years at a private Christian School, hours of Wednesday night bible study, Friday night church meetings, tent revivals, study groups, Sunday school, Sabbath classes and just personal research. I desired a personal relationship with GOD as spoken of in the bible, where Enoch walked with GOD and was no more, or as Abraham left father, family and land to pursue a GOD different from the Idols he helped his father make.

So I followed the commandment “Study to shew thyself approved unto God, a workman that needeth not to be ashamed, rightly dividing the word of truth” ...  And this is when I discovered there are several principles of truth revealed in the bible, but the bible its self, as the infallible word of GOD, is not true. For me not to lose myself in the doctrines of mankind, and maintain self-power love and a sound mind, (sanely, rational and coherent) there was but one principle I could embrace and that principle is LOVE! 

When we walk in LOVE, there is therefore now no condemnation, for we follow peace with all men as much as possible, and we are awakened and understand I and my creator are one.  I and my brethren are one.  I and nature are one.  If Jesus, Muhammad or Buddha did walk the earth I am sure LOVE is the only principle they were attempting to embody.  Love thyself and love thy neighbor as thyself, do unto others as you would have them to do unto you, for no one saves us but ourselves. No one can and no one may. We ourselves must walk the path of LOVE.




My Thought for the Day Copyright © 2010


Sometimes we stumble;
Sometimes faith is betrayed;
Sometimes the mistakes we make
are the stones it takes, to build a pathway to the person we will be. Remember we are ever becoming.
(January 08, 2010)

Wisdom is the prerequisite of perfecting love,
Truth is the prerequisite of revealed wisdom,
If there is no truth, there is no perfecting love.
Seek truth, wisdom and love will follow.
(January 10, 2010)

"When I fall, whether I be friend or foe, stretch forth, help me, dust me off, and send me on my way in love." Yes, Love... The action that surpasses all understanding... The force, that creates forgiveness, in the mist of derision. The virtue, that gives all fallen souls the ability to journey on... and to the sender (the forgiver who's been wronged) the ability to heal, and also grow on.
(January 11, 2010)

Every Today was once a Tomorrow,
Every Tomorrow will become Today…
What will you do Today, to influence your Tomorrow?
(January 18, 2010)

Turn down the thermostat! Stop expelling valuable energy! Winterize your heart! Insulate the warmth of your spirit, and conserve yourself (your being) for those who acknowledge your wroth.
(January 23, 2010)

My thought for today is a reflection of something my mother always said, "The road to hell is paved with good intentions, and well meaning people, who never got around to proving the thoughts of their heart". (February 6, 2010)

The grass always looks greener on the other side, but don’t climb the fence, the dog bites, the cat scratches, and the owner is a jack ass.
(February 7, 2010)

I would hate to wander through the desert of hope, hungry, only to find the fig tree barren.
(February 10, 2010)

What is adequate for one can be inadequate for another, time reveals what is. (February 17, 2010)

We are all more than we believe, if we merely believe.
(February 26, 2010)

To be unpredictable, for some is a challenge of intellect.
To be conventional, for some is deifying creativity.
To be absolutely unique, is a freedom we all seek, at various levels. (February 27, 2010)

We view photo's, we read blogs and status', we agree or disagree, we like or dislike, we study, examine and respond, based on our perceptions of what we believe is communicated and revealed, What you see is not always what you get.
There are times we should use our prudent minds, to take another look, there could be more than what meets the eye.
(March 7, 2010)

Things don't always End Well,
Yet its well they ended.
(March 17, 2010)

Women, we are always told, we talk to much, so men created Facebook, Texting & Twitter, to teach us to be direct and to the point. Please say it in 140 - 420 characters or less…
(March 18, 2010)

S H I N E !!! Even in your darkness shine.
Those who need your light will see it. S H I N E!!!
(March 20, 2010)

Selfishness will tax any relationship, and chronic selflessness taxes the individual.
(March 27, 2010)

Many of us read to locate, take note of, or memorize, that which has been taught unto us. Some of us study to gather information of that which is written, and has been taught unto us, with no intention of questioning its validity.
Others of us locate, take note of, memorize, gather information and are able to rightly divide the written and spoken word, which has been taught unto us, and there confirming or denying its validity. Wisdom is seeking beyond what is taught or understood, to affirm truth.
(March 29, 2010)

We are taught in childhood, not to question, our parents, our elders, and those deemed to have religious authority over us... We are not to lean to our own understandings, and if we find ourselves of another opinion, we are told it is the devil. Therefore withstanding our failure, our unwillingness, our fear to question, that which is questionable, we adhere to a belief passed down but never scrutinize by those we looked to for guidance. We pledge servitude to a belief we ourselves struggle to comprehend, and in so doing, we vaguely acknowledge the God-ness, the creative force within ourselves… (Greater is he that is within U than he that is in the world. (The world meaning, outside of U.)
(March 30, 2010)

Misery loves company, and hurt people hurt people. If folks fail to take the time needed to heal, they will always repeat the cycle of pain. I have found love means different things to different folks, so we must find our definition of love, and apply it as we await the arrival of that mate, whom shares the same definition of love as ourselves.
“Can two walk together, except they agree" Amos 3:3
(March 31, 2010)

Normal isn't fun....
Sanity has no adventure... and when U go crazy,
there are no valid excuses... I'm staying crazy...
(April 24, 2010)

Not every Hello is permanent,
and not every Goodbye forever...
time is the common denominator.
(April 29, 2010)

Allergies are like sucker punches,
there aren't any warnings,
and you're never prepared....
(May 3, 2010)

There must be balance… as you will learn;
your success is no more superior than your greatest failure.
(May 4, 2010)

Reggie Arnold THOUGHT: you have to love some people from a lonnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnng distance. Help yourself before you extend too far, there may not be enough rope left..
(May 8, 2010)

God always places the answer within us...
We must be still enough to hear, and wise enough to listen....
(May 18, 2010)

soap & water don't make U clean..
it just makes U washed...
so watch U'r deeds...
(May 27, 2010)

Love at first, second or third sight is possible.
For U determine the love u will give...
U determine the barriers or limitations U will set.
We don't love because we think others will love us,
We love because we so desire to do so,
Despite whether we are loved in return.
Love at first sight simply means I choose to love this person despite their willingness or lack thereof to love me back...
I will love without seeking a return...
I Love u because I can.
(June 28, 2010)

All Life's lessons can't be learned in a day,
so slow down and pace yourself,
it's not that kind of race. ~Sista
(July 27, 2010)

It would seems at some point we should graduate
from believing to knowing...
Are U ready for your cap and gown?
(July 27, 2010)

Wine is a necessity... for relaxing conversation... :)
(July 29, 2010)

One should not work to maintain faith,
If you’re working, you are working in fear,
For faith and knowing, just is.
Copyright © Kim Daniel
(July 30, 2010)

If you’re giving to get,
You’re not giving, you’re lending.
(August 10, 2010)

Baby stepping to my forward motion....
Hope the train don't leave the station fo' I get there...
(August 18, 2010)

One of the most amazing encounters is watching my thoughts manifest before my eyes...
I am grateful
(September 3, 2010)

Rummaging through the closets of my memory, I found U.
Just like old times, we laughed and smile, and joke for awhile, then the phone rang, and guest what, it was U... (September 29, 2010)

Wisdom can sometimes look crazy, and looks can sometimes be deceiving. (October 22, 2010)
resolve to LOVE Unconditionally

Living In A Stream Of Possibilities