Tuesday, January 19, 2016

Comfortable Within

Are you more concerned with others perceptions of you? Or… Are your perceptions of yourself defined by you and you alone? Being comfortable within for many is an ever perplexing journey and for others, the journey is seamless and natural.
To be comfortable within, fortifies one’s emotions and behavior, and when met with the stresses of a challenging life, those who are comfortable within are able to remain level headed, confident in their truth and able to summons their ability to overcome.  When one is comfortable within, even while facing unwarranted circumstances, these individuals are capable of remaining mentally and emotionally present and accountable for their choices and actions.
When we are uncomfortable within, we can be regularly afflicted with self-doubt, self-loathing and indecision. When uncomfortable within everything in life can be a challenge due to our indecisiveness; we may melt down oppose to calming down and we tend to seek affirming affirmations from others, outside ourselves.  When we are uncomfortable within we can develop a habit of not defining our boundaries, and when we do not define our boundaries, we leave ourselves open to becoming constant victims of circumstance.
One mechanism I found for knowing and understand one’s self is journaling.  Whether we are Comfortable Within or Uncomfortable Within, being able to pen one’s thoughts, experiences, life-dreams and day-dreams, is an inexpensive and therapeutic means to getting to know oneself.  Below are a few questions to help you get started.
Journal Entry: Learning to become Comfortable Within
Find a place where you can be completely alone, and not influenced by outside forces that can result in feelings of guilt, insecurity, or embarrassment. And… Answer the Questions below, to help you begin to better focus on You.  
  • What are your best qualities?
  • What nonphysical thing would you like to change or improve about yourself?
  • What is your greatest accomplishment at present date? And what makes this your greatest accomplishment?
  • What makes you laugh at yourself? Explain in detail.
  • What was your life’s most frightening experience? How did you overcome it? Or… How are you dealing with it?
  • What was the most empowering moment of your life? How did it make you feel?
  • If by some magical ability you became a super hero overnight, what are your superpowers and how would you use them to benefit the world?
  • What one thing can you do right now to bring you inner peace and happiness?
  • What inspires you to do and be your best?  Do you always present your best efforts? (Answer for the following: Job, Home, School, Family, Friends, Self). How do you know the effort you have given is your best?        

Join me SistaSistaSister, Crystal J and Stephanie Wallace of LAID: (Love And Intimacy for the Disabled) Sunday (January 24 2016) as we explore what it means to be Comfortable Within.        

Monday, January 11, 2016

There Is Therefore Now No Condemnation: RadioBlog Notes

Condemnation is defined as the active practice to judge; to declare (or make) wrong," “to damn” or "to condemn," whether in civil, ethical or religious associations.

I know for myself, when we transition from one thought process to another or we cease to follow religious practices or systems of belief, due to our growth development or reassessments of convictions, we also meet with religious condemnation from those whom we know and love.  But let me affirm, “There Is Therefore No Condemnation. When we are free from internal condemnation.

It is my thought, what breeds this religious condemnation is ignorance, intolerance and a lack of compassion.

Solution for religious condemnation:
1.    We must know our truth lies within us, so we must stay in tune to our internal dialogue.
2.    When we transition from one thought process to another we must give ourselves time to grow into the assurance of our knowing.  As we grow the things others say will no-longer bother us.
3.    Free yourself from condemnation for we know, there is therefore now no condemnation, except we exact it upon ourselves.

Remember, upon divorcing, the only religion we have ever known, we will come face to face with internal and external conflict. In the beginning we may refrain from expressing our new understanding with those we know and love, for fear of not being understood.  In our minds, a mental battle may ensue. Our thoughts may conflict as we attempt to balance religious indoctrination with clarity formed by knowledge logic and experience. For a time, we will be of two minds, condemning ourselves for questioning a system of belief widely accepted by those we know and love and the growing freedom of our own truth.  And when the day comes and we do share our new and present truth, we must know beyond the shadow of doubt this is our truth and we stand in it in love and confidence...

Thank U for listening,

Saturday, January 9, 2016


Once I reclaimed me and excused myself from the bondages of religion, I then understood, “There is therefore now no condemnation to them who walk after the Spirit.”  What is the spirit? The Spirit, is many things to many people, but for me The Spirit is the seat of my soul; the mechanism for my knowing, the leverage of my intuition, the indicator on my guidance system, and the life force which animates my body.  The Spirit is Me, my actual self. 

That’s a mouthful, so let me explain. I was raised in a Christian family with Christian principles and beliefs.  In my family and amongst friends of the family and the community I grew up in, there were various forms of Christianity and Christian beliefs.  For example, one aunt was Apostolic Pentecostal, another Church of God in Christ, my Grandpa was Church of God and my Grandmother Missionary Baptist. Family friends and neighbors were Catholic, Jehovah’s Witnesses, and Muslim.  Before my 17th birthday, I had attended them all and each religious sect claimed to be the truth, and the way of life if I were to enter into heaven or paradise.

From age 12 to 24 I read the King James Version of the Bible through and through, 12 times from cover to cover, not including three years at a private Christian School, hours of Wednesday night bible study, Friday night church meetings, tent revivals, study groups, Sunday school, Sabbath classes and just personal research. I desired a personal relationship with GOD as spoken of in the bible, where Enoch walked with GOD and was no more, or as Abraham left father, family and land to pursue a GOD different from the Idols he helped his father make.

So I followed the commandment “Study to shew thyself approved unto God, a workman that needeth not to be ashamed, rightly dividing the word of truth” ...  And this is when I discovered there are several principles of truth revealed in the bible, but the bible its self, as the infallible word of GOD, is not true. For me not to lose myself in the doctrines of mankind, and maintain self-power love and a sound mind, (sanely, rational and coherent) there was but one principle I could embrace and that principle is LOVE! 

When we walk in LOVE, there is therefore now no condemnation, for we follow peace with all men as much as possible, and we are awakened and understand I and my creator are one.  I and my brethren are one.  I and nature are one.  If Jesus, Muhammad or Buddha did walk the earth I am sure LOVE is the only principle they were attempting to embody.  Love thyself and love thy neighbor as thyself, do unto others as you would have them to do unto you, for no one saves us but ourselves. No one can and no one may. We ourselves must walk the path of LOVE.

Sunday, November 23, 2014

Black Friday Is Nearing

Personally I haven't done Christmas in twenty years however I will admit Black-Friday 2007 I stood in line for 5 hours to buy my first home computer on the cheap-cheap.  However, afterwards I learned better and once you know better you do better.  I introduced this boycott as a means to enlighten us on our spending power and our ability to use that power to create positive change.  I would love for this to be an ongoing event; where we begin to think more economically and adjust our spending.  We all know this system only understands the dollar.  We have seen for ourselves, our voices, votes and petitions for justice and change are seldom heard.  On the other hand, it is my experience when we extract our funds effecting the corporate bottom lines, then politicians listen.  We have seen evidence time and time again, corporations run the politicians.  Therefore, to establish national change and justice against police brutality, we must have a national movement.  We must rethink or retrain ourselves to spend and consume wisely, we must be the change we desire to impose upon our government and we need to start with the most lucrative season of the year.  This means, those of us who look forward to this season for large purchases and gift giving should rethink the long term goals for justice and change, over consumer consumption. Sista  

Saturday, September 20, 2014

Repatriate Africa... A Social Media Conversation; My Comments

     African-Americans have dwelt in America for centuries, not decades, centuries.  The blood, sweat and labor of our ancestors bought us the right to be here on American soil.  This is our home and repatriating Africa while Europe and China continue to rape it of all its mineral resources would be foolish. 
     This is our land, we have no need to leave we merely need to recognize our power and stand; stand together and create the society we once had.  Recreate our Black Wall Street's, recreate our Wilmington North Carolina's, and recreate our Lovejoy & Brooklyn Illinois.  Recreate the wealth we accumulated before the terrorist bombed Tulsa Oklahoma, before the Red hot summer of 1919 and 1921.

     All we need to do is stand and organize our new agendas.  Build our new Black Owned & Operated Financial Institutions.  Develop our own educational schemes and stratagems taught by Black instructors.  American is our land and we must acquire it by the acreages; LAND, LAND, LAND and more LAND...  All we need to do is STAND!!! And not allow our ancestors toils and labor, heartaches and pains, lynchings and deaths be in vain. Why return to Africa when it was our Foreparents who labored causing America to become the nation she is. Black Americans cannot be nor have they ever been racist against any group of people... bias, prejudice, partial, and maybe even bigoted, but never racist... To be a racist one must have the economic power to keep another group of people down.  Not on any continent have Black People had that power, in the last 6 centuries; and to infer we are Racist/Prejudice against our own is preposterous.  Africa will forever be our Biological Mother and despite the absolute cruelty our ancestor experienced, we were fostered here in America and America is where we shall stand.  Sista

Tuesday, September 2, 2014


This November 28 is BLACK FRIDAY… Black Friday is historically America’s largest shopping day of the year.  Black Friday jumpstarts the holiday shopping season all across America; retailers and outlets look forward to our dollars. Manufacturers, distributors, and brand-named companies and corporations depend on Black Friday to boost their bottom-line. 
By Boycotting Black Friday, we can make Big Business work for us.  How you may ask?  We desire political change but lack the funding to support long term lobbying which is needed to effect change.  Big Business however pays professional Lobbyist to lobby the government on its behalf.   
If we can rummage the pockets of big business demonstrating the power of our dollars to affect corporate bottom-lines, we can then force big business to lobby for us.  As the saying goes Money Talks and Bull***t walks.  

Let us Boycott Black Friday and let it be known Excessive Force and Police Brutality are no longer acceptable…  We too are Americans, and our lives matter. 
America’s policing policies must change.  We will no longer be choked hold into submission, tazed for amusement, used as punching bags by officers with mismanaged anger, nor gun down like prey on city streets…
In the words of former Civil Rights Activist Fannie Lou Hamer, “We are sick and tired of being sick and tired.”


Sunday, July 20, 2014

Apes Represent Blacks in this Movie; Dawn of the Planet of the Apes

Friday July 18th, I ventured out to one of St. Louis’s newer downtown movie theaters; I had been anticipating Dawn of the Planet of the Apes since I learned of it in January. The ticket was twelve dollars and I spent $14 on refreshments, wow, pricey.  Inside the theater, I enjoyed the leather rocking seats designed with couples in mind and the large screen and superb surround sound.  The movie was entertaining and well-orchestrated; had it not been so late in the evening, I would have viewed the movie twice.  I usually watch movies twice, first for the entertainment value and second for critical observation; nonetheless, upon returning home, I posted the movie trailer on my Facebook page along with a simple comment, “Yes I enjoyed this movie.”  As friends do on social media, a friend commented on my post, it was more a cautionary notice than a comment, “Watch it closer.” I asked this friend to inbox me his thoughts, however he posted for all to see.  Funny thing, I knew what his response would be.  He posted, “Apes represent Blacks in this movie”...  This was nothing new; I have heard it all before. 
Fifteen years ago, while engaged in a conversation, I mentioned my fascination for all things Planet of the Apes and it was then I was told of racial connotations depicted within Planet of the Apes movies and its series... One friend told me; in the older television shows Gorillas represented Irish Folks because they were responsible for policing society; Chimpanzees represented Asian Folks because they were the scientific body; Orangutans represented White Folks because they were the ruling body and Humans represented the Negro; Black Folks enslaved and imprisoned for medical science, labor, and target practice.  Some years after that, a second friend shared with me in conversation a simpler version, he said, “The Planet of the Apes represent the fears of White Folks and their ideal of society if Black Folks Ruled; Gorillas were uneducated Blacks used as overseers, Chimpanzees were educated Blacks creating the white collar labor force, and Orangutans were the intellectuals of Black society full of talk but never getting their hands dirty. 
Before those two conversations, Planet of the Apes was a simple Saturday afternoon flick which entertained the mind of a child who enjoyed the mental escape from a weekend filled with childhood obligations of morning chores and laborious errands. Vera, Cornelius, Caesar and Taylor along with a host of others, whose names I have forgotten, were my weekend heroes.  I was not aware of political propagandas and fears of social decline and terror.  Conversely, these aforementioned conversations caused me to question my awareness and work to expand my consciousness, making mental notes to revisit my memories of the Planet of the Apes.  Why hadn't I been cognizant of these agendas before? 
It took me some years to revisit the old Planet of the Apes shows and as they say, when you look for something it will appear.  Cloaked with the information of my two friends, I clearly realized their earlier analysis and wondered what else had I not seen? Should I return to Star Trek and look for the racial over and undertones there as well? 
Now days, I am clearer on issues of ethnical intolerance, prejudice, bigotry, the use of religious dogma, the excessive legal system and political improprieties all of which were tucked within those earlier Planet of the Apes Movies and series.  On the subject of “Apes Represent Blacks in This Movie” my response is this…
If the Apes in this movie “Dawn of the Planet of the Apes” are representative of us (Black Folks) we have truly developed; we have laid aside our weapons to study war no more. We have learned as a collective body of people to live together in unity and community.  We have declared loyalty to ourselves as a people, refusing to slay one another.  We have taken our education into our own hands, educating our own children, training them in the ways of our people.  We protect our women and children, providing shelter and security, and a place to call home for us all. 

If the Dawn of the Planet of the Apes is representative of Black Folks, based on the character of Koba, then we (Black Folks) are no different than we already are.  We have learned bigotry from the bigot, war from the warring, intolerance from the intolerant, barbarism from the barbarian and fear has enslaved us so severely we imitate the very contempt and disdain we desired to rid ourselves of and too I say, until we the people (Black Folks) conquer fear, lay aside emotional anger for logic, and break the yokes of religion and economic slavery, we will forever be third class citizens in a nation we helped to build. ASE’

My Thought for the Day Copyright © 2010

Sometimes we stumble;
Sometimes faith is betrayed;
Sometimes the mistakes we make
are the stones it takes, to build a pathway to the person we will be. Remember we are ever becoming.
(January 08, 2010)

Wisdom is the prerequisite of perfecting love,
Truth is the prerequisite of revealed wisdom,
If there is no truth, there is no perfecting love.
Seek truth, wisdom and love will follow.
(January 10, 2010)

"When I fall, whether I be friend or foe, stretch forth, help me, dust me off, and send me on my way in love." Yes, Love... The action that surpasses all understanding... The force, that creates forgiveness, in the mist of derision. The virtue, that gives all fallen souls the ability to journey on... and to the sender (the forgiver who's been wronged) the ability to heal, and also grow on.
(January 11, 2010)

Every Today was once a Tomorrow,
Every Tomorrow will become Today…
What will you do Today, to influence your Tomorrow?
(January 18, 2010)

Turn down the thermostat! Stop expelling valuable energy! Winterize your heart! Insulate the warmth of your spirit, and conserve yourself (your being) for those who acknowledge your wroth.
(January 23, 2010)

My thought for today is a reflection of something my mother always said, "The road to hell is paved with good intentions, and well meaning people, who never got around to proving the thoughts of their heart". (February 6, 2010)

The grass always looks greener on the other side, but don’t climb the fence, the dog bites, the cat scratches, and the owner is a jack ass.
(February 7, 2010)

I would hate to wander through the desert of hope, hungry, only to find the fig tree barren.
(February 10, 2010)

What is adequate for one can be inadequate for another, time reveals what is. (February 17, 2010)

We are all more than we believe, if we merely believe.
(February 26, 2010)

To be unpredictable, for some is a challenge of intellect.
To be conventional, for some is deifying creativity.
To be absolutely unique, is a freedom we all seek, at various levels. (February 27, 2010)

We view photo's, we read blogs and status', we agree or disagree, we like or dislike, we study, examine and respond, based on our perceptions of what we believe is communicated and revealed, What you see is not always what you get.
There are times we should use our prudent minds, to take another look, there could be more than what meets the eye.
(March 7, 2010)

Things don't always End Well,
Yet its well they ended.
(March 17, 2010)

Women, we are always told, we talk to much, so men created Facebook, Texting & Twitter, to teach us to be direct and to the point. Please say it in 140 - 420 characters or less…
(March 18, 2010)

S H I N E !!! Even in your darkness shine.
Those who need your light will see it. S H I N E!!!
(March 20, 2010)

Selfishness will tax any relationship, and chronic selflessness taxes the individual.
(March 27, 2010)

Many of us read to locate, take note of, or memorize, that which has been taught unto us. Some of us study to gather information of that which is written, and has been taught unto us, with no intention of questioning its validity.
Others of us locate, take note of, memorize, gather information and are able to rightly divide the written and spoken word, which has been taught unto us, and there confirming or denying its validity. Wisdom is seeking beyond what is taught or understood, to affirm truth.
(March 29, 2010)

We are taught in childhood, not to question, our parents, our elders, and those deemed to have religious authority over us... We are not to lean to our own understandings, and if we find ourselves of another opinion, we are told it is the devil. Therefore withstanding our failure, our unwillingness, our fear to question, that which is questionable, we adhere to a belief passed down but never scrutinize by those we looked to for guidance. We pledge servitude to a belief we ourselves struggle to comprehend, and in so doing, we vaguely acknowledge the God-ness, the creative force within ourselves… (Greater is he that is within U than he that is in the world. (The world meaning, outside of U.)
(March 30, 2010)

Misery loves company, and hurt people hurt people. If folks fail to take the time needed to heal, they will always repeat the cycle of pain. I have found love means different things to different folks, so we must find our definition of love, and apply it as we await the arrival of that mate, whom shares the same definition of love as ourselves.
“Can two walk together, except they agree" Amos 3:3
(March 31, 2010)

Normal isn't fun....
Sanity has no adventure... and when U go crazy,
there are no valid excuses... I'm staying crazy...
(April 24, 2010)

Not every Hello is permanent,
and not every Goodbye forever...
time is the common denominator.
(April 29, 2010)

Allergies are like sucker punches,
there aren't any warnings,
and you're never prepared....
(May 3, 2010)

There must be balance… as you will learn;
your success is no more superior than your greatest failure.
(May 4, 2010)

Reggie Arnold THOUGHT: you have to love some people from a lonnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnng distance. Help yourself before you extend too far, there may not be enough rope left..
(May 8, 2010)

God always places the answer within us...
We must be still enough to hear, and wise enough to listen....
(May 18, 2010)

soap & water don't make U clean..
it just makes U washed...
so watch U'r deeds...
(May 27, 2010)

Love at first, second or third sight is possible.
For U determine the love u will give...
U determine the barriers or limitations U will set.
We don't love because we think others will love us,
We love because we so desire to do so,
Despite whether we are loved in return.
Love at first sight simply means I choose to love this person despite their willingness or lack thereof to love me back...
I will love without seeking a return...
I Love u because I can.
(June 28, 2010)

All Life's lessons can't be learned in a day,
so slow down and pace yourself,
it's not that kind of race. ~Sista
(July 27, 2010)

It would seems at some point we should graduate
from believing to knowing...
Are U ready for your cap and gown?
(July 27, 2010)

Wine is a necessity... for relaxing conversation... :)
(July 29, 2010)

One should not work to maintain faith,
If you’re working, you are working in fear,
For faith and knowing, just is.
Copyright © Kim Daniel
(July 30, 2010)

If you’re giving to get,
You’re not giving, you’re lending.
(August 10, 2010)

Baby stepping to my forward motion....
Hope the train don't leave the station fo' I get there...
(August 18, 2010)

One of the most amazing encounters is watching my thoughts manifest before my eyes...
I am grateful
(September 3, 2010)

Rummaging through the closets of my memory, I found U.
Just like old times, we laughed and smile, and joke for awhile, then the phone rang, and guest what, it was U... (September 29, 2010)

Wisdom can sometimes look crazy, and looks can sometimes be deceiving. (October 22, 2010)
resolve to LOVE Unconditionally

Living In A Stream Of Possibilities